The Danish Girl (2015)

There is so much to love about this film. The main character's independent but fierce camaraderie for each other, the expression of what it means to truly love someone so much that you face your fears about your own inadequacies as a woman, the foreboding sense that despite all good intentions you might be wronging the love of your life and what that really means to be "in. love." with someone.

Tom Hooper directed this and was released sometime in the winter of 2016 but I was not ready at the time to face my own internal biases and watch it. I knew from the get-go that (spoiler alert) Lili probably would not remain faithful to Gerda post-transitioning and while I knew and accepted that at the time that Lili deserved love and to be truly her god-given self, it upset me on some deep cellular level. I was (at the time) not ready to accept infidelities in love on any level but with time I've come to a different understanding of love and relationships that expounds on the boundaries of what it means to be in a couple.